When easy becomes a problem...

[winstonlyj]

Dear SBF bros,

I got into the hunting mood for fbs, ONS about 3-4 years ago.
Started off with about 1-2 flings every 3months and after awhile, I'm picking up gals every other week almost like my second nature... All these while attached.

I enjoy the challenge, the bonks, the achievement of conquering random "guai" looking gals, public fucking, recounting my sexperience to acquaintances, etc. But I'm trying to settle down now as i want to commit to my relationship and I can't get rid of this addiction...

Any bros in similar situation?
Any advice?

[YoloTown]

Power to you....

When you are naturally tired of it then its the right time to settle down?

many married men also have affairs though...

[Kittenz]

Originally Posted by winstonlyj

Dear SBF bros,

I got into the hunting mood for fbs, ONS about 3-4 years ago.
Started off with about 1-2 flings every 3months and after awhile, I'm picking up gals every other week almost like my second nature... All these while attached.

I enjoy the challenge, the bonks, the achievement of conquering random "guai" looking gals, public fucking, recounting my sexperience to acquaintances, etc. But I'm trying to settle down now as i want to commit to my relationship and I can't get rid of this addiction...

Any bros in similar situation?
Any advice?

yeah me too bro no challange, i just smile at a girl as next thing she in my car sucking my penis, also with money, i just go casino and 99% win 1-2k so i stop working 10 yrs already, no need to do anything just smile get bonk, walk in casino win money, no challange in life i think kill myself

[Koibitosan]

Firstly, how do you pick gals weekly? That is some feat. Kudos to you.

[winstonlyj]

Originally Posted by YoloTown

Power to you....

When you are naturally tired of it then its the right time to settle down?

many married men also have affairs though...

The problem is I'm not tired of it, at all. I'm still enjoying every second of it but I want to give my all to a loving and committed gal.

"many married men also have affairs though", to me, this is the "addiction" that I'm worrried about... that i cannot stop hooking up with gals that i bearly know...

[winstonlyj]

Originally Posted by Koibitosan

Firstly, how do you pick gals weekly? That is some feat. Kudos to you.

Every other week bro, thereabouts during my peak...

Every week is possible but way too time consuming and i cannot manage that haha.

[winstonlyj]

Originally Posted by Kittenz

yeah me too bro no challange, i just smile at a girl as next thing she in my car sucking my penis, also with money, i just go casino and 99% win 1-2k so i stop working 10 yrs already, no need to do anything just smile get bonk, walk in casino win money, no challange in life i think kill myself

Then you're one up in this aspect. I still find it a challenge but that's where i find enjoyment

[ilovepantyhose]

Originally Posted by Kittenz

yeah me too bro no challange, i just smile at a girl as next thing she in my car sucking my penis, also with money, i just go casino and 99% win 1-2k so i stop working 10 yrs already, no need to do anything just smile get bonk, walk in casino win money, no challange in life i think kill myself

cool story bro

[mitosblog]

When I was a student in uni I had a very big problem; I got addicted to gambling, my best friend told me if you don't quit now you are going to destroy the entire family by ending up poor, being in heavy debt, looked down by relatives. I know I had to quit for good, all by myself, and today I am no longer addicted to gambling, I live a normal life without gambling. My case no different from yours, quit now before you destroy your own relationship. There will be no happy ending if she found out about your lifestyle someday. Confirm divorce if you decide to marry her. So take action now if you have plan to marry her in the future. Good luck bro

[Parkerlon]

Originally Posted by mitosblog

When I was a student in uni I had a very big problem; I got addicted to gambling, my best friend told me if you don't quit now you are going to destroy the entire family by ending up poor, being in heavy debt, looked down by relatives. I know I had to quit for good, all by myself, and today I am no longer addicted to gambling, I live a normal life without gambling. My case no different from yours, quit now before you destroy your own relationship. There will be no happy ending if she found out about your lifestyle someday. Confirm divorce if you decide to marry her. So take action now if you have plan to marry her in the future. Good luck bro

How did u quit Bro?
I'm still addicted

[mitosblog]

Originally Posted by Parkerlon

How did u quit Bro?
I'm still addicted

Before I decided to quit, all I was thinking was how to earn back all the losses and even try to seek solution with a gambling counsellor. The more I bet the more I will lose. In the end I said to myself never mind of the losses. Just quit for good and never looked back. This is what I called self determination. It's entirely up to oneself to quit. The choice is in your hand.

[winstonlyj]

Originally Posted by mitosblog

Before I decided to quit, all I was thinking was how to earn back all the losses and even try to seek solution with a gambling counsellor. The more I bet the more I will lose. In the end I said to myself never mind of the losses. Just quit for good and never looked back. This is what I called self determination. It's entirely up to oneself to quit. The choice is in your hand.

This is actually a very good example, thanks bro.

I know it is hard to quit when you are losing, etc.
Imagine if you are winning every hand (its an exaggeration but imagine winning 60% of the time...)
And yes, that is me right now...
I'm "winning" the gamble but not exactly winning either.

Not sure if I make sense...

[mitosblog]

Originally Posted by winstonlyj

This is actually a very good example, thanks bro.

I know it is hard to quit when you are losing, etc.
Imagine if you are winning every hand (its an exaggeration but imagine winning 60% of the time...)
And yes, that is me right now...
I'm "winning" the gamble but not exactly winning either.

Not sure if I make sense...

Gambling is like this, at first you win some and you want to win more. But you don't know how to stop when you start losing. In the end you lose all the money. Luckily I did not end up in debt to anyone as I was using my parent's money. The only solution is to let go of all of the losses. I did not take any pills or see any doctor for my gambling problem.

I need to get out of this hell hole alone. It was really difficult in the beginning as the craving was still there you know. It took me many years to overcome this addiction by learning from other people experience such as from people who owed money to loan shark, children who got disowned by their parents due to gambling debt, wife divorcing husband due to gambling, etc.

If I don't stop I cannot imagine how my life would be today. Because I accept life is filled with ups and downs. Losing in gambling is one downside in my life and I accept it as path of learning and growing up. Because in real life if you never fail you cannot learn anything. I accept it with open heart and decide to move on with my life.

I then get involved with regular physical exercise and I found out that this has transformed me over the last 5 years. My confidence increased, I no longer get addicted to gambling, even if I do I only play for fun and bet small amount, win or lose does not matter to me anymore. I felt so much healthier than before. Some ppl even commented I looked younger 10 years than my real age!

To eliminate the craving of bonking outside you can substitute it with a much better hobby such as going for regular exercise and see the difference in your overall long term health. It works for me, I do not see how it cannot work for you if you put full effort in. But let me tell you to change you need discipline, consistency and action.

When I am doing physical exercise I also met obese people (over 100 kg) trying to lose weight by walking for few days and after that disappeared and never see him again. I can sense that he must have given up on losing his weight completely.

The same goes to you, very difficult in the beginning, but at least you must make a first move to find a new hobby, try it and enjoy it. Eventually you are going to get rid of your current hobby. Because if you don't you are going to follow the same old path after you get married and will continue the same old habit even when you have children.

[jnudes]

You want to settle down is normal for every guy that want to end their bachelorhood.

The main thing is do not marry a wrong woman. Or else the consequences are far more painful that you can imagine of.

[911s]

Originally Posted by Parkerlon

How did u quit Bro?
I'm still addicted

You will stop when the money dries up. lol