Sex Life after Marriage

[jespertan]

may i know how old are you?
& your hubby?
thanks

[AngelEye]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Damn we should exchange partners, cos my oc also bring PSP to bed and play until she fall asleep...always leaving me high and dry...i think she gets her orgasm playing from the game then making love with me...

Damn monster Frankie gets beaten to it by a PSP...

u can become a LIVE PSP game character ma..and let ur wife play u...keke..

[havana]

Hi...sorry to say....yr hubby could have erection problem

[BBWLover]

maybe he doesn't love you as much??

actually, i'm just purely guessing.. but do not think so much, cause i believe that everything's gonna be fine after all..
=)

[makka111]

I bonked my wife immediately after she declared herself "ready" after recovering from having our first baby. I even bonked her during 2nd trimester when the gynae said can. My wife is definitely not the hot babe type so I guess I am either a sentimental person OR a HORNY MONSTER! And her engorged breasts made me even hornier...and that was three years ago. To this very day, I still bonk my wife at least twice a week.

I think your husband is plain lame at not making you feel loved. I don't sugar-coat my words becos although the truth hurts, it must still be said. You had a baby for him after suffering NINE BLOODY TORTUOUS MONTHS of pregnancy and he can't get it on for you!? He should be shot, whatever excuse he has.

[Xgenre]

If your hubby is using Singtel, you can subscribe to the LOCATOR function to monitor his location. I personally hope it doesn't come down to this. Right now, the problem seems to be one of attraction (he to you) rather than infidelity.

Sister, traditionally, guys like to chase after girls. To hunt. When the roles are reversed and the girl is doing the chasing, the initiating... some guys find it a big turn-off. By taking the lead in asking for sex, you could be adding stress to him. People call it perfomance anxiety.

What I will suggest is that you BAIT him to hunt you instead. Wear something sexy to sleep every night. Get your figure back asap. Go doll yourself up with a new hairdo. Do everything to make yourself an attractive lady. And wait. Wait for him to want you. You can't demand that he must want you but you can create the conditions for him to hunger for you.

I personally find ladies who breast feed a big turn on. What can be sexier in a lady than a sign of fertility? All those hour glass figures that men admire... aren't they all signs of fertility?

I think PSP is a passing phase is life. How long can you be hooked onto the same type of games? I got sick of Xbox after 6 months...

[Marblecat]

And I thought normally it is the woman who loses interest in sex after birth?

It's indeed not normal for your hubby to be so off sex. My own experience is that I was bonking my wife right through the first pregnancy; we did go through a pretty bad period when we went sexless for about 3 years, but that was her not wanting it, not me. It was hell, but I'm glad that's over.

Seeing the unhappiness it is causing you and possible underlying issues behind his behaviour, indeed professional help is an option you should consider.

[t123]

[QUOTE=Frankiestine;3626007]one other possibility is......could he be gay? QUOTE]

with regards this, I really have 2 friends whose hubbies are like that. one married her for convenient sake to cover up. the other not sure just think sex is dirty. the former have FB, the latter DIY.

[Frankiestine]

Originally Posted by AngelEye

u can become a LIVE PSP game character ma..and let ur wife play u...keke..

Grrrrrrrrrrr........watch it gal u threading on very thin ice...grrrrrrr.....

[ironmansakama]

try something different.. when it comes being routinary sucks.. coz u keep on doing the same thing all over again..

do something u havent tried before, try being a nudist.. or let him caught u playing by yourself..instances like that...

[sexfrenzy]

Originally Posted by Fade

I have also observed that Hubby do not DIY. I did question him, but get brushed off again. Lately, i found some porn clips on his com.

Why not u go through those porn flicks to get idea what turns on your husband.

It can be flicks with sexily clad ladies in heels, or flicks with a lot of blowjobs or adventurous position.

Act out his fantasy and surely that will bring back the good times.

Good Luck!

[Tankuku]

I get turn on by breast feeding. Nice to feel breast that is full n succulent.. Can quench thirst too..

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by Frankiestine

Damn monster Frankie gets beaten to it by a PSP...

I'm sorry to hear that bro monster Frankie is beaten by a Pretty Small Penis.

[Oralcraz]

Originally Posted by Fade

I am feeling very helpless now. I told my hubby that i will never initiate ML ever again until he is ready to take the initiative. Guys, is it possible for a man not to masturbathe at all for many many months? When i perform BJ for my hubby, he had no problem with getting a hard on, but seems like he is not producing much semen as well.

Sorry to hear yr plight. Really. For my case, I'm directly opposite of u. My wife is like yr hubby and I am like yr situation. (My wife don't play PSP but just do not want to ML).

First, I witnessed my wife natural birth. I watched my son head emerged out, opening his eyes, then crying. Almost 18 yrs, still can remember the scene. After that, I don't hv any problem about sex. No problem at all.
Secondly, I don't get turn off about breast feeding. In fact, when I see the baby sucking the nipple, my month naturally react like the baby
So the above is not a turn off for me and honestly, should not be the reasons for rejecting sex at all. I always believe between husband and wife, irregardless of form or shapes, still will fuck one.
Thirdly, I don't think men can go without releasing semen for many months. If I don't release once a week, I feel very uncomfortable as every morning, I get very hard on and even during the day, get a hard on easily.

IMHO, the reasons for not enjoying, or wanting sex between husband and wife is that the love is gone. No love liao. Just go thru the motion and obligation of marriage. Like me, my wife and I may seem and act luvy luvy, hold hands etc etc but nv fuck at home. Sometimes, once a month, sometimes nv. One yr 12 condoms also cannot use up. What I'm trying to say is give yr relationship a good thought. If luv is gone, try to do something to develop the luv again. Men like caring and tender understanding.

Also, if yr hubby semen is little, more likely he has released himself. Usually, if did not release for 1 or 2 weeks, amount of semen is more and usually concentrated("thick"), sometimes a little yellowish not so whitish.

With due respect to u, I would like to echo what Dec Gal advise to u. Hope he is not "eating" outside. Good luck.

[bonky]

Bro Oral, This is my 1st post in this forum after so many years. It seems that we are in the same shoe. My wife simply stressed up with kids and dun like ML anymore. During courting, we even do it interesting places...now. When I want she dun want. When she want it, rarely, I am like stressed out with my work. Hence, I turn to outside for some fun and actually fell in love with someone which I initially started out as fling.

To sister here...it is better that you have a good talk to your hubby or get PI to check on him. No matter how a man report to me, they still can makan outside. A good example is me esp I travel alot. Tho I still love my wife but the passion is gone becoz of her preference in frequency to ML. What can I do but to seek greener pasture and now the worst part is instead of the physical thing, my heart went with it.

Originally Posted by Oralcraz

Sorry to hear yr plight. Really. For my case, I'm directly opposite of u. My wife is like yr hubby and I am like yr situation. (My wife don't play PSP but just do not want to ML).

First, I witnessed my wife natural birth. I watched my son head emerged out, opening his eyes, then crying. Almost 18 yrs, still can remember the scene. After that, I don't hv any problem about sex. No problem at all.
Secondly, I don't get turn off about breast feeding. In fact, when I see the baby sucking the nipple, my month naturally react like the baby
So the above is not a turn off for me and honestly, should not be the reasons for rejecting sex at all. I always believe between husband and wife, irregardless of form or shapes, still will fuck one.
Thirdly, I don't think men can go without releasing semen for many months. If I don't release once a week, I feel very uncomfortable as every morning, I get very hard on and even during the day, get a hard on easily.

IMHO, the reasons for not enjoying, or wanting sex between husband and wife is that the love is gone. No love liao. Just go thru the motion and obligation of marriage. Like me, my wife and I may seem and act luvy luvy, hold hands etc etc but nv fuck at home. Sometimes, once a month, sometimes nv. One yr 12 condoms also cannot use up. What I'm trying to say is give yr relationship a good thought. If luv is gone, try to do something to develop the luv again. Men like caring and tender understanding.

Also, if yr hubby semen is little, more likely he has released himself. Usually, if did not release for 1 or 2 weeks, amount of semen is more and usually concentrated("thick"), sometimes a little yellowish not so whitish.

With due respect to u, I would like to echo what Dec Gal advise to u. Hope he is not "eating" outside. Good luck.