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Thanks for the reminder bro. I guess what i like about your thread is it can serve as a timely reminder (to those who bother to come to this section of the forum) to cheongsters, to reflect on why we even started out this hobby in the first place.
For singles maybe more clearcut, need an outlet to release and don't wanna "self service" all the time. But from what i gathered the vast majority of bros in this hobby are either married or have someone in their life. I don't believe in the lame excuse that due to current relationship sucks so no choice turn to commercial XXX. End of the day men (and women too in fact) are wired to be greedy and lusting for as many girls they can experience as possible. Human nature.
What is important is like you reminded, don't lose track of the more important things in life. This is not unlike gambling, it can get addictive and coz of curiousity and hunger, we keep upping the ante and the risk (financially and health) gets higher and higher if we don't keep our primitive desire in check.
For me personally i started out of curiousity and horny. I began with pure ML who only HJ, slowly i became hungrier, started to try CBJ, didn't wanna take the risk of BBBJ, soon after i found myself succumbed to BBBJ, then i accepted ML offer for top up FJ w cap..finally i found myself booking pure FL.. That's when i suddenly come to my senses and asked myself, what's next? Raw with FL?? And that prompted me to jam brakes and took a break from all these. I even stopped coming to sammyboyforum just to make myself less tempted.
Eventually my horniness and lust for the female species brought me back.. Lol. But i have a clearer sense of what i should do and not do. I stopped eyeing on BBBJ ML and no to any FL. Cheong safe. In fact i am only visiting one ML regularly and all she does is SOP HJ, not even full nude. But the chemistry is there so i enjoyed my time spent with her even no special services at all.
So i guess i owe you a thank you bro, a timely reminder of why I am here. I am in this hobby to seek temporary escape from reality but not at the expense of having my life spiral down out of control. Like boss said, this forum might end up saving lives..
Haha.. at least you have a clearer sense now and not risk yourself any further.
No need to thank me as this also voice down to each reflections.
Is good to take sometime and reflect on things happening to us, to our lifestyle.
Prostitution reduces the need for men to have affairs. If prostitutes were not available then husbands would have to resort to flings in order to get laid.
Affairs usually result in emotional entanglements that can destroy a marriage.
A visit to a prostitute is far less risky in this regard. It's a financial transaction that is over in an hour or so. The client can then revert to being loving father and husband once he returns home.
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Keep your identity secret.
Do not divulge personal information eg phone numbers, real names & addresses.
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Looking at the year you joined, it’s like almost 10yrs ago. And since you use “ex” word, means already move on. Good for you!
Thank you. It was very acrimonious and difficult. I also bonded with people sharing similar difficulties. Good men who stated faithful only to find their wives chatting on them. But I'm glad i survived. This forum opened up opportunities for me to get back my dignity. Not to forget my desire to commit suicide went away.
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Originally Posted by Johndick
And people thought only man fools around. Glad you came to your senses bro. Life is too short to be ending it for ONE woman, especially when she aint even truthful to you. Cheers
No... many women fool around. After coming to SBF, it opened my opportumities to enjoying my sexual options. I found that the notion that local men aren't faithful is wrong. I found many local women are very ready to cheat and in fact more than men. The right money, presentability, career are all prerequisites. Then you can hear their justification after they cheat.
You do realise of course that this forum has almost certainly destroyed far more lives and families than it has saved?
Depends on which angle you view it maybe?
Does forums like this makes it more CONVENIENT for people to take the plunge? Yes of coz. But why would someone browse a n Xxx forum if he doesn't have a weakness /temptation to try it? So i guess there's no real "who is at fault" blame that can be attributed.
It's just like gambling. Before we have legal casinos, people gamble illegally. With legal casinos, those people can have a more convenient way to fix their gambling itch. For people like myself who not into gambling, it makes no difference whether how easy /tedious it is for a person to gamble, coz not my cup of Tea.
Prostitution reduces the need for men to have affairs. If prostitutes were not available then husbands would have to resort to flings in order to get laid.
Affairs usually result in emotional entanglements that can destroy a marriage.
A visit to a prostitute is far less risky in this regard. It's a financial transaction that is over in an hour or so. The client can then revert to being loving father and husband once he returns home.
Gotta agree somewhat. I can't speak for the majority but for me i can function more normally in my relationship after i get my "needs" met by these WLs. Of coz some will say if your relationship has issues you should iron it out instead of turning to commercial "aid". But in reality it is rarely that straightforward. PPlus i already mentioned, some of us just more greedy than the rest. I am flawed unfortunately.
Prostitution reduces the need for men to have affairs. If prostitutes were not available then husbands would have to resort to flings in order to get laid.
Affairs usually result in emotional entanglements that can destroy a marriage.
A visit to a prostitute is far less risky in this regard. It's a financial transaction that is over in an hour or so. The client can then revert to being loving father and husband once he returns home.
Agreed, or else there will be a lot of rape cases.
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I think coming to here is not about finding who is at fault in a relationship that resulted you to be here.
Let’s face it. Each individual has different needs and each couple have different issues..
Everyone has different way to handle the issues.
So cool ya.. let’s not judge anyone..
The fact of the matter is that once women have had a couple of children many transform from wanting to be objects of their husband's desire to being mother of their children.
Sex becomes secondary and many husbands get far less sex than they need. This is where the sex industry plays a vital role.
We have allowed Chistocentric values to dictate our moral code but Singapore has never been a Christian nation. The majority are Chinese and our values have been molded accordingly. In Chinese culture a mistress is acceptable. It is part and parcel of life. The Christian code of being forever faithful to one wife till death do us part is not how our ancestors lived. Why do we accept this norm without question?
Men are sexual creatures. It is not a sin. It is built into the DNA. It is what keeps the human race going.
__________________ Tips for ALL samsters.
Keep your identity secret.
Do not divulge personal information eg phone numbers, real names & addresses.
If you do arrange social meetings through this site, do NOT reveal your primary sammyboy nick.