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I am in my late 20s. I have been with my bf for about 2.5 years and the first two years are long term relationship with timing differences. We have overcome the long distance rs and recently he has came back to sg for almost 6 months but he couldn’t even get a proper job. He has sent near to hundred of resumes but many rejected him due to no working experience.
I feel tough being with him recently as I am a Professional and need to ot always but he seems like doing nothing and slept until noon due to jobless. I need to provide allowance for my parents and we always quarrel because of money. My friends think that we are not compatible as he doesn’t even have a stable job. Let alone planning for our future. His family background is not bad but what I want is someone who is financially independent without relying on his parents.
I need some advices from the bros and sis over here. Been very vex recently over this issue, should I continue waiting for him to get a proper and stable job or should I just move forward to get someone who has common interests and common topics with me.
Enough has been said about the qualities desirable in a mate.
All I want to add is the following:
1. "Advice" is a non countable noun. You do not add an "s" to make it plural. "Advice" is like "rice" or "salt". You don't say "rices" or "salts" so "advice" is exactly the same.
2. "Advice" is a noun eg "I need some advice".
3. "Advise" is a verb eg "I advise you not to marry a loser.".
Hope that helps.
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Enough has been said about the qualities desirable in a mate.
All I want to add is the following:
1. "Advice" is a non countable noun. You do not add an "s" to make it plural. "Advice" is like "rice" or "salt". You don't say "rices" or "salts" so "advice" is exactly the same.
2. "Advice" is a noun eg "I need some advice".
3. "Advise" is a verb eg "I advise you not to marry a loser.".
Hope that helps.
This is exactly how I improve my English from this forum. Anyway thank you for all of your kind “advice”. Shall call this to an end and move on....
frankly since u ar professional .... then its good to hav him to be househusb to balance up. someone gotto take care if the kids and house .... u bring hme the bacon.
Enough has been said about the qualities desirable in a mate.
All I want to add is the following:
1. "Advice" is a non countable noun. You do not add an "s" to make it plural. "Advice" is like "rice" or "salt". You don't say "rices" or "salts" so "advice" is exactly the same.
2. "Advice" is a noun eg "I need some advice".
3. "Advise" is a verb eg "I advise you not to marry a loser.".
Hope that helps.
This forum not only teach people how to chiong better, even improve your english!! ahaha
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Sincerely appreciate so many advices from the bros and siss over here...
Actually I am a FT too. I heard many people commented about us(the foreigners) about finding a Singaporean as a bf for something(money/PR status etc) but in fact we actually here to earn so that we have more to support our family back in our hometown.
No wrong to criticise us because due to the FTs the job opportunities for locals have dropped tremendously,part of my relatives are locals too and I understand the difficulties. So sorry about this but we have no choice as well.
Also, this is why my bf is a foreigner(PR) cause I do not want people to think that we FTs are here to get a rich bf and this is why I have always been trying hard to work together with my bf. If we can overcome this hardship then in the future perhaps nothing can split us apart.
I understand my age is quite awkward now cause I am not as young as the teens and should seek for a stable rs but to me age is just a number. What’s matter is we should live our lives with no regrets, getting a compatible partner is nothing easy as well.
I dunno where you and your bf are from, and I dunno your surroundings, but only PRC and Viets who work in the massage/ktv industry have a reputation of looking for bf/husbands here in SG. If you are not from those countries AND working in those industries, nobody will accuse you of it.
So don't use this lame reason to stay with the guy. A useless guy is a useless guy, you don't have to stick with him just because he is also a foreigner. There are plenty and plenty of honest hardworking foreigners from every country here
Hi, as a single guy who has held the same job since graduation for the past few years, I have to say it is twofold:
Maybe it's true he hasn't been trying.
Maybe it's true that no good fit in terms of job.
Maybe his self-worth is in the gutter and subconsciously sabotage him. I think, to be honest, maybe you should try and list out potential problems first, try to solve the problems you can solve, and if not, it's time to pack up and balik kampong.
Some people can be saved. Others... you finish the idea ba.
Don't stay with him cause of the years together. Think about your future, will you be happy or are you even happy now? If you have gotten the answer.... You know what you should do...
Thank you for your kind advices. He has tried to apply for those simple jobs but still couldn’t get. Merit of him is he is really good to me and even sometimes when I am showing him my temper he will still give way to me. This is the reason why I stand until now. But all of my friends said “爱情不能当饭吃”. Sometimes he has tight cashflow he will borrow from me, this is what my friends get really fedup of him and don’t even want me to discuss more on him because to them a guy should be more responsible and find ways to solve the problems.
Perhaps both he and me are not in a very good situation to continue.
sis feel you, think of “周任发“, maybe now you bf is experiencing his low in life and really has difficulties - as i can see he is trying also but just no luck
If you really love him from your heart, give him some time ...
sis feel you, think of “周任发“, maybe now you bf is experiencing his low in life and really has difficulties - as i can see he is trying also but just no luck
If you really love him from your heart, give him some time ...
6mths of sleeping at home and not going for part times jobs (which he clearly can), says alot already. Who knows, maybe TS ditching him will be the wake up call he needs.
hi, just want to understand better he’s also local? just that he’s been working overseas? so that explains the LDR for 2yrs?
I’m pretty much in the same scenario before, graduated during massive economy downturn couldn’t find a full time job in my field of study even though sending resumes after resumes.
But I didn’t just stay at home & nua but worked part time of all sorts at least have some income to support myself (even no pocket money for parents also ok)
some of the part times include sports event helper, construction site mini supervisor handling bangla for a small project, temp dog accommodations where owners go overseas & we help take care their dogs (I even wash their kennels full of dog shit & need to walk the dog like they are my master) etc
It dragged for 2yrs when economy picked up & I finally able to get a full time job but pay sucks big time but at least better than doing part time all the way
I treat my parents makan when I get my 1st pay check sibeh shiok (they also super happy even though my pay not very high)
slowly getting the necessary experience & switch jobs & rest is history
So if he has the will to go look for something to do I think still can put on observation mode...if not I think letting go might be a better option