Why don't I want to have sex with my wife?

[WilliamLye]

Maybe you need to go for outside service to satisfy your need.

[Wipedout]

A lot of desperate guys here suggesting mmf to try and get free sex. If you're a real man and want to have a threesome, you'll go for mff, not the shitty kind.

[Delonx]

nothing wrong, same here. fucking wife just boring like shit. dont dare to do exhibitionist things nor tease me. Too ego to ask for sex, initiate like a slug, totally turn off. dont even wear thongs or g string. just married, dont even have children yet. dont feel like having children.

[porn3x0004]

Thank you every body!

[movies05]

Hello!
I also have similar problems!

[biscuitboi1982]

Originally Posted by Delonx

nothing wrong, same here. fucking wife just boring like shit. dont dare to do exhibitionist things nor tease me. Too ego to ask for sex, initiate like a slug, totally turn off. dont even wear thongs or g string. just married, dont even have children yet. dont feel like having children.

Lol you sound exactly like what I'm going through too....

[4eversexy]

Your wife is not pretty in the first place, the more you look at her the most you get tired. so thats why you don't have sex drive towards her.

[VincentnYu]

Unless there are other external reasons eg 3rd party, illnesses, she has done something wrong etc, stop the thinking of you 'not wanting to have sex with your Wife'. Convince yourself that this was the girl you courted, the one you married, the one whom you had children with, and the one who will grow old together. Save the best sex with her, make love! She is still very young and even if she may have gone slightly out of shape (since she had given birth), you must let her know and feel that she is the most important person. Women are very genuine and sensitive creatures, they can feel and sense very well. If the Husband comes home with a black face, no interest towards the Wife or family, you sure get it from them. Maybe not a quarrel but definitely lousy feeling. I always subscribe to the philosophy "if my Wife is happy, my whole family is happy". Give her more love, leave the kids with someone reliable bring her for a romantic staycation. Surprise her with a VS g-string and tell her that you want to see her wearing it and nothing else. Once you turn her on and she is horny, make love to her! But plan wisely, find out when is her fertile period, make arrangements for childcare (I think most young mothers will put their kids as # 1). SMS her with sweet and sexy msgs, remember to write her name otherwise she may think that you've sent to the wrong person. As for yourself, keep yourself fit, reduce work stress, watch your diet, start on some tonics for men, all these will help in your 'performance'. Let us know how you progress, am sure we are all willing to help.

[Pusslet]

Originally Posted by VincentnYu

Unless there are other external reasons eg 3rd party, illnesses, she has done something wrong etc, stop the thinking of you 'not wanting to have sex with your Wife'. Convince yourself that this was the girl you courted, the one you married, the one whom you had children with, and the one who will grow old together. Save the best sex with her, make love! She is still very young and even if she may have gone slightly out of shape (since she had given birth), you must let her know and feel that she is the most important person. Women are very genuine and sensitive creatures, they can feel and sense very well. If the Husband comes home with a black face, no interest towards the Wife or family, you sure get it from them. Maybe not a quarrel but definitely lousy feeling. I always subscribe to the philosophy "if my Wife is happy, my whole family is happy". Give her more love, leave the kids with someone reliable bring her for a romantic staycation. Surprise her with a VS g-string and tell her that you want to see her wearing it and nothing else. Once you turn her on and she is horny, make love to her! But plan wisely, find out when is her fertile period, make arrangements for childcare (I think most young mothers will put their kids as # 1). SMS her with sweet and sexy msgs, remember to write her name otherwise she may think that you've sent to the wrong person. As for yourself, keep yourself fit, reduce work stress, watch your diet, start on some tonics for men, all these will help in your 'performance'. Let us know how you progress, am sure we are all willing to help.

Well said bro

[Modernised]

Originally Posted by Pusslet

Well said bro

Agreed here also

[gattaca]

Stop watching porn .

[CumExplorer]

that is the reason why so many bros eat outside ... quite normal

just eat outside to satisfy your needs ...

[sxem]

Even if your wife is bloody Scarlett Johansson you also will sian one. Thats just the way it is, men are programmed to look for sexual variety and contrary to what fairy tales want you to believe, reining this urge in is a real conscious effort and thats why committed relationships need work.

That being said, if you think the problem is that your wife is letting herself go. Do this.

- work out, make yourself as physically attractive as possible. Gain some muscle, trust me she will notice
- going out with her, do some light flirting with waitresses, sales assistants etc.

Nothing amps a woman up as sexual competition. But dont overdo it as she might feel discouraged and this will backfire, balance is key. In my circle, we call this dread game. If done correctly, she will up her game, time to inject some jet fuel into your life TS,

Are you ready?

[PayFuckForget]

Actually this is a very common problem la. It's just how frank you want to admit.

Who won't be sian with wife after 3 years, don't say 7 years, 3 years only i give you. But i really depends on how you spice it up. Look at OurWorld's thread and you will get a rough idea.

The only thing you need to know is how you want to treat the fatigue of seeing the same thing everyday. You can be selfless and do her when she needs it like what i do, but i still look around outside carefully to have my desires fulfilled.

Because, what makes you think she is not sian of you after 3 years? If you find out she eat outside, are you going to brand her a slut or are you going to shake her hands and tell her "I do that too leh!"

Maybe there are some stress triggers, mostly it's money or how you have spent your time. Women expect men to give a certain level of commitment towards the family but that might not work out for you... you can't run but you can only talk it out or figure a way to commit to your family and yet, if you still want to fulfil your desires after such commitments, then you have to plan carefully how you want to eat out before you get caught.

[sexresearcher]

Need to find spice in the marriage bro. The biggest sex organ in our body is actually our mind. If you can imagine, the possibilities are endless on what you can do with each other!

I think communication is important. Wife don't fuck unless they want to and guess what is control that? Its their mind again. So sort it out and if she really wants you to hit on her, you will get your pussy!

Peace