What is the secret to long lasting affair?

[lipe]

Originally Posted by senters89

So, to my bro and sis who had their story ended,
Don not be sad that it ended, but happy that it happened.

and to my bro and sis who still have this special relationship including myself.
Enjoy every moment you have with her/him. I'll rather regret something I did than regret not doing something. Twenty years from now, make sure you can say that you chose you life, you didn't settle for it.

Bro senter89,

Well said.

Mine is 31 years and still on going.

When we first met, I was married and she is single. Did heavy petting only. No sexual acts.

Encouraged her to seek her own life and get married. Five years later she married. We lost contact. Later, about 10 years, we got in touch again due to nature of work.

Found out the husband is an asshole. She had a miscarriage. Fortunately, she subsequently conceived and gave birth to a boy and a girl. When she gave birth, the husband is playing mahjong instead of accompanying her to hospital.

Her husband let her handled the family and finances. He only goes to drink frequently even though there is insufficient money and bet heavily on 4D. Helped her financially and we became closer.

One thing lead to another and we finally made love after 12 years. Maybe due to this time gap, from first meeting to first making love, it helped us to bond strongly.

It is our mutual understanding that our family are intact. We agreed that we are not fated to be husband and wife in this life. Only hoped to be in next life.

She cared a lot about me and I treasured and pampered her.

[joanne321]

Why does men always think the gal outside is better?

[Shadow_warrior]

have a good holiday with your loved ones...

[twinstarsloxing]

Originally Posted by joanne321

Why does men always think the gal outside is better?

Aren't some women think the guys outside are better?

[cassandradream]

Originally Posted by joanne321

Why does men always think the gal outside is better?

Hi Joanne, I don't agree that guys think the other woman is better. They can't even leave their wives for the other woman thinking they will morph into someone else once they exclusively have him. The irony of life!! Sucks right?

[jacksontay88]

Have alot of money to pamper the other half!

[Fazzyrim]

Originally Posted by joanne321

Why does men always think the gal outside is better?

It's not about better or worse. It's about how a man and woman thinks. A man can think separately, but a woman will always want to connect everything together. So to a man, an affair is an affair and that's it, but to a woman, she would invest feelings in it, even though knowing it's wrong.

Like in this video...

[stonned]

Originally Posted by YELLOW

i am also in a similiar relationship . its been 2yrs . we have been each others solemates since this long. its a "marriage" i never had . we respect each other and make sure we discuss feelings and tots. when times are diffiicult we are compassionate and try our best to be avaliable .its not easy . it takes work commitment and belief in each other. ppl would ask so y dont u do the same w ur spouse??? yes .... sometimes issues and state of affairs have deteriorated to such an extent .... its not salvagable......

I fully agree... there was a time I wished I could make up with my wife but she just refused to cooperate with me. But now I have given up and then she turned around trying to patch up with me. I can only tell her, "sorry, it's too late, you could have done that when you had the chance to."

[stonned]

Originally Posted by Shadow_warrior

this is very true.

P/s want to start a small group of people, divorced, going to, thinking about it, having extra partners, etc... sometimes a word of advice from the wiser and non judgmental people can help loads. WeChat? PM me. Bros, Sis...all welcomed.

Bro, we actually have a group on Wechat for a while. Feel free to join us, just PM if you are interested. Would be glad to have you around :-)

[YELLOW]

y do the woman at hme keep complaining the man is lousy at home ..... not appreciated at hme so go outside .... simple

Originally Posted by joanne321

Why does men always think t
he gal outside is better?

[Ladyrain]

Originally Posted by EcchiK

Clearly we are very close and news starts flying around. We are now trying to explain to our own spouses to clear misunderstandings. Still, emotions are rampant and things are difficult.

Hey.. you do know that as long as you have to hide it from your spouse, you are already there?
It doesn't really have to be physical you know?

[january29]

Originally Posted by twinstarsloxing

Aren't some women think the guys outside are better?

i completely agree with this ...

its not only guys who has middle life crisis .. apparently girls are having it too .. and it is worse

only based on my exp

[aseandude]

Let's not make this a gender issue and not questioning the morality of an affair.

To achieve a long lasting relationship (friendship, marriage, affairs, etc),

Certain needs need to be fulfill such as emotional, physical, financial, and so on for both individuals to maintain and retain the relationship.

(Some people hang on to marriage because for commitments, responsibilities, child, family pressure, embarrassment)

Humans are ever changing beings.

Nothing last forever.

Everything will come to an end.

The difference is how it ends when it eventually happens.

Either on a positive or negative note.

Lost of interest, time to move on, being discovered, death, etc...

Cherish the moment.

[localguylor]

There is no 1 secret to long last a relationship. One method works for you, may destroy other.

If you are facing unhappiness with your spouses and you are not doing anything. Then you are and will be facing the same shit day in day out.

Manage your expectation! (For girl)

If a guy is not perfect. Don't expect him to transform into your dream prince charming after marriage. 99% of the guy will not change, if he does not become worsen. You already gain.

Like wise. Who said having affair 100% lead to divorce? At least not to me.

[tikokeong]

Paper cannot cover fire .