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Re: All you need to know about SEX -Your Sex Dictionary

Sex Toy - DILDO HARNESS
Who uses a dildo harness?


Heterosexual women
Heterosexual men
Lesbian women
Gay men

What is a dildo harness? A dildo harness is a harness for your dildo. Essentially, some straps are placed around your hips & butt to hold the dildo in place on your pubic bone so that you can penetrate your partner.

Dildo harnesses have the unique ability of creating a 'gender bender' experience. Some women report feeling powerful, when it is suddenly them that are wearing the penis. They are now the ones who are doing the penetration. They now are the proud owners of the most phallic symbol of male power, the penis! Other women may not feel powerful at all, they may simply feel silly. This too is normal. Wearing a penis may require an adjustment period. For men who strap on a dildo, it may be a relief to them because they no longer have to worry about being large enough, hard enough or lasting long enough. As a result, the importance of their penis has been diminished. For many men, this is a first, and opens up a whole new world to them of how to have good sex. Beyond creating the gender bender experience, strap on dildo's, when properly washed with HOT water and SOAP, are a safer sex technique. No actual penal-vaginal intercourse has occurred. All the penetrations have been done with a dildo! (However, to truly make this safe, the partners should not share the same dildo - without stopping to wash it first. Second, one should also always remember to wash the dildo if you want to go from anal to vaginal intercourse. Third, some people actually prefer using a condom on a dildo because they find that it decreases the chance of any infections).

When using a strap on dildo at first it may feel overwhelming. Where do you begin? How does it work? First, using a strap on dildo is much more complicated than it looks. You will need to give yourself a lot of time as you discover about this new part of your body. It will take some time to gain control over it. Imagine back in time when you first began kissing, or the first time you touched a partner's genitals. You were totally clueless. Getting skilled and comfortable with any new technique takes time. With a dildo some people report that at first it is harder, but than becomes much easier. It is harder because it is not a part of your natural body, thus you do not have the same amount of sensations. Thus, to keep the motion going you may want to try always leaving the tip of the dildo inside your partner. Therefore, you will not have to worry each time about 'finding' the 'entrance'. As a result, strap on dildo's tend to be slightly longer than regular dildo's. Furthermore, be prepared to ask your partner for a lot of feedback. How does it feel? Too hard? Too soft? Do you prefer long soft strokes or short fast strokes? However, the initial lack of sensations for many people turn out to be a blessing in disguise. It forces people to learn how to really listen to their partner's cues. Once you have learned how to read your partner's cues, you are well on your way to having good sex. These skills will transfer beyond the use of a strap on, to each time the two of you are sexual together, because now you are instinctively much better at reading your partner's signs.
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