[Funlover]

Originally Posted by manure

I get what you mean bro, but don't control too tight also. If don't even have a single trust left it's very hard to maintain your rs with her liao.

Looks like you really lost all your trust in her, it's also quite tiresome to lead a rs full of suspicions

Bro, i wouldn't say that i totally lost trust in her because right now she is really good and i feel it right when she is with me. She afraid of me walking out from her life.

Originally Posted by Taisho75

The solution to your problem is simple. Since both of u are not married, both are free to go out and date any other ppl. Get yourself a girlfriend too. Its only when she learns what a good/bad bf she had that she will cherish/leave u.

Do u know the more u control, the more u probe, the other guy(if he is a bastard) will "poison" her to leave u?

Actually we r considered engaged with our BTO due for completion, i think probably that's part the reason for me to repeatedly forgave her. And from the previous msg i saw, that guy actually did asked her to come clean with me if they actually meet up but maybe at the same time the dislike i feel for that guy don't make me has a good impression on him but one thing i'm sure is that he is the lind of guys that love to have girls attentions.

Originally Posted by coolguy71

Bro.. I feel u. Believe it or not many bro have the similar experience.

From your post.. at start your gf r just being naugthy.. she like to feel wanted and those guys post turn her on.

Then u tell her off.. she stop.. u r in control..

Now she hide the guy from u.. intentionally. . For a girl to do that.. she is cherish him and want him more than u.
if not she want hear you not continue with him in secret.

Now worse u cannot catch they as she delete msg and go out when u think she is at work. And even lie to go out with him.

For a girl to go thru with this troubke to meet him.. u might need to be careful as she already find someone she like to be with more tgan u.

And she say need comfort from him.. meaning she dont feel comforty enough from u.

Bro.. all this r tell tale sign of a girl opening herself to another guy.. which used to be primarily yours.

Just remember girl who open up do it with open ger heart and mind.. so u must talk to her show her u r better than any other guy..

Yes u cannot tied her as she ia free to choose.. but u can try harder to maje her choice harder.. and claim her back.

She first choose u for a reason.. it I s time to refind the reason ..

Dont give up..

Do update what hapoen next. . We r right behind u bro..

Her own way of saying is that she wants friends because i admitted that she really spend a lot of her time with me when we started out and she really doesn't have much friends for chatting or going out except for colleagues. Just that i dun understand why must she always approaches the guys. She is afraid of me leaving her therefore i don't really agree with you that she want to be with that guy more.

Originally Posted by coolguy71

Hege.. me being longwinded..

Just final word. She is now bother to hide the guy from u.. meaning she still care about u.. not want to hurt u.

So u still have chance.. reclaim her . Find out what make her stray...

Dont have a shouting match. U will only push her to that guy as he will "comfort" her. . U can be sure he is trying jyst as hard to bed her and away from u...

That is all lost.

I get what you meant and we didn't exactly had a shouting match because she is more of a soft gf that is afraid of bf getting mad. She knew that she was in the wrong but don't know should i said that stupidity is in her or is she really that ignorant for repeating the lies..

Originally Posted by Maxlion

Bro FYI i just had a heart to heart talk with my wife to be..

I ask her everything which i wanted to know for the one last time..

since she answered me i gonna believe her 100% from now on..

I had told her too dun take my trust as a shield or excuse for doing bad..

I love her and i believe she had changed alot since with me..

So there is really nothing u can do if u really love her..

Be like me to trust her or u gonna move on...

Right now i doesn't have any "proof" of her misbehaving therefore i don't think that i should bring up unhappy issues. I don't know how should i explain but other than "wanting attentions" from other guys, she is basically a very good gf..